The Benefits of Pre-Arrangement
Primary – Your Family’s Burden
Pre-arranging one’s own funeral is truly a gift of love to your family. It relieves a tremendous burden from your family at a time when your family needs help more than any other time in their lives.
The emotion families go through in the time of death and grief seldom allows for rational thinking. If you have already made these decisions for them, it gives your family a sense of comfort and peace of mind. Knowing that you took the time to express your wishes helps them through their time of grief without adding extra decisions. Wondering what you would have wanted in a funeral service, casket or music etc., without any knowledge of what you would have wanted only adds to your family’s grief.
Funerals can be pre-arranged with as little information as you want or as complete as to discuss the smallest detail. Many people will choose to put their wishes in writing and also will choose the casket, outside container ( if required) and the type of funeral service they desire. Any step you take in relieving your loved ones of this burden will be greatly appreciated by them. No one has ever been upset over the fact that their loved one has taken this burden from them.
Secondary – The Financial Burden
Many people will choose to select the type of service and the merchandise that they prefer. They will also choose to pay for these items as well.
When you choose to fund your pre-arrangement, you have several options available to you that will not be available to your family at the time of death, these will be discussed later. Also, at Matthews Funeral Home, we offer families what we call a pre-arrangement discount for funding their wishes.
By funding your pre-arrangement, you have also relieved the financial burden from your family. Financial decisions should be made calmly and with thought. Often this kind of decision is not allowed in a grief situation.
Your family should be allowed to concentrate on family, friends, and fond memories to help them in their grief and not financial matters over your funeral.
Pre-arrangement is an important decision. We hope that we have given you some good information to determine which options are best for you and your family. There are some questions you may still have on this subject, and we would welcome an opportunity to sit down with you and answer those questions without any obligation to you.
In your decision to pre-arrange your funeral, please remember one thing, the funeral is for those left behind. We all have the tendency to minimize our importance to our family and friends, but remember, you are important to your family.
The funeral is the most important tool for your family and friends to use to start moving through their grief process and coming to terms with the death of a loved one. Talk to them and give them an opportunity to express their feelings and learn about yours. This will aid them in dealing with their grief.