Ben Pushmataha McCarley, M.D.


Ben Pushmataha McCarley died July 26, 2022, at the age of 96.  He was born January 13, 1926, in McAlester, OK.  His parents were Dr. Tracey Holland McCarley and Agnes Ainsworth McCarley.  Agnes, part-Choctaw, died the day he was born, and he was raised by his beloved Aunt Nell.  He was the family athlete, playing fullback and quarterback for the McAlester Buffalos, while president of his senior class. He often reminisced that growing up in a small town allowed him to enjoy all kinds of activities.  He loved riding his horse and swimming at Fin and Feather.

After high school and during the second World War, he attended Virginia Military Institute and started, as a freshman, on the varsity football team that defeated Clemson, but took a pummeling from Temple.  He then served in the US Army Air Force and went on to graduate from SMU and then Duke Medical School.

He met Alice, his first and only love, during his internship at the University of Alabama.  They wed on January 30, 1954 and began their 66 years of marriage. In 1955, the family moved to Dallas.  There they raised their four children, Hannah, Betsy, Ben and Luke and he worked as a beloved pediatrician, was on faculty at Children’s Hospital and president of the local school board.

He was an avid tennis player and a man of adventure, teaching his kids to water ski at Camp Hy-Lake in Tennessee, taking them on multiple snow ski and backpacking trips to Colorado, riding rapids thru the Grand Canyon and going on missionary stints in Peru, Taiwan and Africa.

He was loved by his four children, ten grandchildren, six great-grandchildren and his many friends who played such an important role in his life.  After Alice died in 2020, one of Ben’s greatest joys was his weekly men’s Bible study.  He could often be found, in the wee hours of the morning, reading his Bible with a cup of coffee.  He believed God had let him live to an old age in order to deepen him spiritually.  He knew Christ as his savior and friend who would take him home. And He did.

In lieu of flowers donations can be made to: Voice of the Truth, P.O. Box 15013, Colorado Springs, CO 80935.

Visitation will be held from 4-8 p.m., Wednesday, August 3rd at Matthews Funeral Home.

Services will be held at 10:00 a.m., Thursday, August 4, 2022 at First Presbyterian Church Edmond, OK with interment to follow at Gracelawn Cemetery Edmond, OK.


  1. I’m so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a great man who loved and was loved by many. Hugs to Betsy and family from a friend. Barbara Ludekens

  2. I am sorry for your loss Beaty and family. Saying prayers for all of you to be comfort in time. With all our love David and Cynthia Zarate.

  3. Dr. McCarley was pediatrician for my family of 5 children, Paula, Jennifer, Stephanie, Scott and Maribeth Ellis. He was a kind, gently and intelligent doctor that we trusted with our children. I think of him often and the other doctors in their office practice: Dr. Bondy, Dr. Patton and Dr. Fackler.
    Virginia Ellis

  4. Hey Dr. B and family.I’m so sorry for this huge loss to your family.Just the few times I met your Dad, he was always so kind.Praise God he is a believer and now in paradise.Thinking of all of you with love. Stacy Dirker

  5. Sorry to hear of his passing. He was a great man, and a great influence on me, especially in my teenage years. Rest in peace.

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